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Marriage Troubles Quiz: Grow Together, Not Apart.
I’m Oliver Drakeford, LMFT, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in West Hollywood, specializing in couples therapy in Los Angeles. I love helping people grow great relationships. In my relationship work, I help couples by focusing on four areas of a relationship and this quiz will help you do the same.
What Is a Marriage Trouble Quiz (and What It Can & Can't Tell You)
A marriage trouble quiz is a structured self-assessment that helps couples evaluate the health of their relationship across key dimensions - in this one, it's communication, emotional intimacy, conflict resolution, and balance of power.
A good marriage troubles quiz should be developed by a licensed therapist like myself, as these quizzes translate clinical relationship frameworks into accessible questions you can answer in minutes. Think of it as a relationship wellness scan—a guided way to pause, reflect, and identify patterns you might otherwise overlook.
What a marriage trouble quiz helps with:
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Spotting early signs of emotional disconnection before they escalate
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Opening honest conversations about specific relationship dynamics
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Clarifying which areas feel strong and which need attention
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Providing a starting point for deeper exploration, whether on your own or with a therapist
What a marriage trouble quiz cannot do:
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Diagnose relationship problems or predict divorce
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Replace professional couples therapy or clinical assessment
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Capture the full complexity of your unique relationship history
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Provide treatment recommendations for mental health concerns
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A quiz like this offers clarity and direction—not conclusions. For a complete assessment, working with a qualified mental health professional remains the gold standard.
Why Take a Marriage Troubles Quiz?
Every marriage faces challenges—some big, some small—but knowing when to check in on your relationship’s health can be the difference between growth and heartbreak.
I’m Oliver Drakeford, a licensed Couples Therapist and Relationship Coach, and I designed this quiz to help partners understand where they stand and what steps can lead to deeper connection and more emotional intimacy.
Research—and my professional experience—show that couples who regularly assess their relationship are 70% more likely to maintain higher happiness and emotional intimacy. Taking this Marriage Trouble Quiz isn’t just about identifying problems; it’s about gaining clarity, insight, and hope.
This quiz helps you:
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Spot early signs of disconnection before they turn into distance.
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Open honest conversations about love, trust, and communication.
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Receive a personalized report with practical tools and exercises to rebuild closeness.
Even if your marriage isn’t “in trouble,” this quiz can serve as a proactive checkup—like a relationship wellness scan—to help you strengthen your emotional foundation and deepen your bond.
Common Signs of Marriage Trouble This Quiz Measures
Relationship distress rarely appears overnight—it builds through patterns that often go unnoticed until they feel overwhelming. This quiz evaluates six key warning signs that research and clinical experience show are reliable indicators of relationship strain.
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Communication breakdown — Conversations have shifted from meaningful connection to logistics, small talk, or surface-level exchanges that leave both partners feeling unheard.
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Emotional distance — You've stopped sharing dreams, fears, and hopes with each other, and turning to friends or others for emotional support feels easier than turning to your partner.
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Recurring unresolved conflict — The same disagreements repeat without resolution, creating a cycle where both partners feel frustrated and defensive rather than understood.
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Trust concerns — Doubts about reliability, honesty, or emotional safety have started to erode the foundation of your connection.
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Intimacy changes — Physical affection, emotional warmth, or sexual connection has declined—not from lack of love, but from unaddressed distance or unspoken resentment.
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Feeling more like roommates than partners — Quality time has faded, appreciation feels rare, and the relationship runs on routine rather than genuine closeness.
Recognizing these signs isn't about assigning blame—it's about gaining awareness. The earlier couples identify these patterns, the more effectively they can address them.
The Four Pillars of Relationship Success
Healthy relationships rest on four essential pillars: Communication, Affection, Conflict Resolution, and Equilibrium.
The Marriage Trouble Quiz evaluates each of these areas to give you a clear picture of what’s thriving and what might need extra care. Once completed, you’ll receive a customized summary with insights and weekly resources you can start using immediately.
1. Communication
Talking every day doesn’t always mean connecting. Real intimacy grows when partners share what’s beneath the surface—hopes, fears, and needs.
This section of the quiz measures how effectively you communicate. Are your conversations helping your relationship grow, or keeping things on autopilot? In the quiz, your communication score helps you see whether your conversations have any level of emotional communication that are helping your relationship grow — or keeping you stuck in surface-level exchanges that leave both of you feeling unheard.
2. Affection
Affection is how we describe emotional communication and intimacy isn’t just about physical closeness and it's more than just communication skills. Emotional intimacy is all about how we communicate love, appreciation, and warmth, it means being able to talk about feelings: the good, the bad, and the awkward feelings without fear of judgment. Many couples feel affection fade or a degree of emotional check out, not necessarily because love disappears, but because emotional conversations get replaced with logistics, personal needs get neglected and resentments build.
This part of the quiz helps you understand your emotional connection today and offers guidance on how to bring back that feeling of being “seen and known” by your partner.
3. Resolution of Conflict
Conflict isn’t a sign of failure—it’s an opportunity for growth. But when tension leads to criticism, withdrawal, or defensiveness, emotional scars can build.
Your results show how you and your partner handle tough moments. Do you repair, listen, and reconnect? Or do unresolved fights slowly erode trust? You’ll learn strategies to turn conflict into a bridge back to intimacy instead of a wall.
4. Equilibrium
The final pillar, Equilibrium, is about balance — not perfect equality, but shared power, voice, and respect. It's the ability to show up for yourself in a relationship, hold onto your values and the shear determination to have your voice heard despite having differences or conflicting visions of your future. There are always differences between people romantic connections - somone is more social, someone's a better cook- and there's gender and age differences at play too.
Healthy marriages thrive when both partners feel their opinions matter and their emotional labor is acknowledged. This section of the quiz looks at whether decision-making, responsibilities, and influence feel fair and collaborative — or if one partner feels unheard, overburdened, or sidelined.
Understanding your equilibrium score gives you practical ways to restore balance so both partners feel valued and empowered, building a stronger, more sustainable connection.
Next Step: Take the Marriage Trouble Quiz
Your relationship deserves care and curiosity—not just during crisis, but throughout your shared journey.
Take the quiz today and receive your personalized relationship report and free resources to start building stronger communication, deeper intimacy, and lasting love.
Marriage Trouble Solutions: Couples Therapy in Los Angeles
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in West Hollywood, Los Angeles, I’ve spent nearly a decade helping couples reconnect, rebuild trust, and find their way back to emotional closeness.
Seeking therapy is not a sign of failure—it’s one of the most courageous and constructive steps you can take to improve your relationship. Couples who reach out for support are demonstrating commitment to growth, healing, and understanding.
Through my work at respected institutions such as The Maple Counseling Center and my training with The Gottman Institute, I’ve seen firsthand how structured assessments and evidence-based tools can transform struggling relationships.
That’s exactly why I developed the Marriage Troubles Quiz—a practical, guided way for couples to assess their relationship’s health and spot any concerning signs your marriage is over or heading that way, before small concerns become bigger challenges.
This quiz helps you identify:
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Where your relationship feels strong and connected.
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Which patterns or habits may be quietly eroding trust or closeness.
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How to take the next step—whether that’s a conversation, a workshop, or therapy.
Whether you’re navigating serious issues or simply want to strengthen your foundation, this assessment is an immediate first step toward clarity and connection. You’ll gain a
Signs You Should Take a Marriage Quiz
Every couple argues from time to time—that’s normal. But certain patterns may signal deeper emotional distance or unmet needs. If these sound familiar, it might be time to check in on your relationship through a Marriage Troubles Quiz or a relationship health assessment.
Here are some signs to look out for:
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You feel disconnected, even when spending time together.
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You find yourself turning to friends or others for emotional support instead of your partner.
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Meaningful conversations have been replaced by logistics or small talk.
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You notice a decline in affection, physical touch, or emotional intimacy.
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Disagreements repeat without resolution and leave both partners feeling unheard.
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You struggle to express appreciation or gratitude toward each other.
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You spend less quality time together, even when you both want to.
One of the earliest signs of relationship distress is when couples stop sharing dreams, fears, and hopes. When emotional closeness fades, partners can start to feel more like roommates than soulmates.
Taking a Marriage Troubles Quiz can help you pause, reflect, and better understand where your relationship stands today—and how to nurture it tomorrow.
How to Interpret Your Marriage Trouble Quiz Results
After completing the Marriage Trouble Quiz, your results are interpreted for you, not judged against a generic standard. Each score reflects how your relationship is functioning right now across four essential areas: Communication, Affection, Conflict Resolution, and Equilibrium.
Rather than labeling your marriage as “good” or “bad,” your results highlight patterns—what’s supporting connection and what may need care.
Below is how to understand what your scores mean.
If Your Results Show Mostly Strong Scores
If you scored high across most areas, it suggests your relationship has a solid emotional foundation. You and your partner likely communicate openly, repair conflicts effectively, and feel emotionally supported by one another.
This doesn’t mean challenges won’t arise—it means you already have skills and habits that help you navigate them. Many couples with strong scores use this insight as a preventative check-in, identifying small adjustments that can deepen intimacy and keep resentment from building over time.
What this usually means:
Your marriage is functioning well, and continued intentional connection will help it stay that way.
If Your Results Show Mixed or Moderate Scores
Many couples fall into this category. Mixed scores often indicate that some areas of your relationship feel strong, while others may feel strained, distant, or inconsistent.
For example, you may communicate well day-to-day but struggle to resolve conflict, or feel emotionally connected but unbalanced when it comes to shared responsibility or decision-making.
These results don’t signal failure—they point to specific growth opportunities. When couples address these areas early, they often prevent deeper disconnection later.
What this usually means:
Your relationship is workable and responsive, with clear places where focused attention can create meaningful improvement.
If Your Results Show Lower Scores in Multiple Areas
Lower scores suggest that emotional distance, unresolved conflict, or imbalance may be creating strain in your relationship. You may feel unheard, disconnected, or unsure how to move forward together.
Importantly, these results do not predict divorce or the end of your marriage. They simply indicate that current patterns are not meeting both partners’ emotional needs.
Many couples who begin therapy or intentional relationship work start with similar scores and go on to rebuild trust, safety, and closeness.
What this usually means:
Your relationship is asking for support, structure, and new tools—not judgment or blame.
The Marriage Trouble Quiz For Couples.
As a marriage therapist with extensive experience working with couples in West Hollywood, I've developed the C.A.R.E. Marriage Assessment, which evaluates four critical areas. This quiz attempts issues to help identify potential blind spots and areas for growth in your marriage.
Obviously, this is a free quiz and can only go so far in diagnosing problems - a more complete assessment can be done with a qualified mental health professional.
The assessment takes just two minutes to complete but provides valuable insights that could determine the next steps in your relationship.
Our quiz focuses on four essential pillars:
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Communication: How effectively do you share thoughts and inner emotional world
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Affection: Your emotional connection and intimacy
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Resolution: Your ability to handle conflicts constructively
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Equilibrium: The balance of power and responsibility in your relationship
Wondering If Your Marriage Is Over Quiz:
Understanding Your Marriage Quiz Results
After completing the marriage assessment quiz, you'll receive a detailed analysis of your relationship across all four dimensions. Here's how to interpret your scores:
Here’s how to interpret what your results mean:
Communication Score
Your communication score shows how effectively you and your partner express needs, share emotions, and maintain openness.
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High score: Strong emotional communication and healthy dialogue patterns.
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Lower score: A signal that your conversations might stay at the surface level—an opportunity to develop clearer, more empathetic ways to connect.
Affection Score
This measures emotional and physical intimacy.
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High score: You’re maintaining consistent emotional warmth and connection.
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Lower score: Possible emotional distance—often caused by stress, neglecting affection, or replacing emotional talk with logistics.
Conflict Resolution Score
Your conflict resolution score evaluates how well you navigate disagreements.
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High score: Indicates repair, teamwork, and emotional safety during conflict.
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Lower score: Suggests repeated arguments or unresolved tension. You may benefit from learning new repair strategies or communication tools.
Equilibrium Score
Equilibrium measures balance and fairness in your relationship.
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High score: Reflects shared power, respect, and emotional labor.
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Lower score: May indicate imbalance or feelings of being unheard.
This score helps you recognize ways to restore emotional balance so both partners feel equally valued and supported.
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Building Emotional Intimacy After Taking the Quiz
Many couples ask me, “What do we do next?” after seeing their results. The answer depends on your scores, but one truth holds: emotional intimacy is a skill that can be rebuilt.
Even if your results reveal signs of struggle, there is hope. In my decade as a Marriage and Family Therapist in West Hollywood, I’ve seen countless couples rediscover closeness through small, consistent changes.
Here are a few therapist-approved ways to start:
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Create intentional connection time. Replace screen time with 20 minutes of meaningful conversation each day. Talk about hopes, fears, or what you appreciate about each other.
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Reintroduce vulnerability. Long-term relationships often drift toward routine; rebuilding intimacy means sharing your inner world again.
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Listen to understand. When your partner speaks, focus on empathy over solutions. Emotional safety begins with being heard.
Remember: it’s not about perfection—it’s about connection.
Creating a Healthy Marriage: Next Steps
Building a thriving relationship requires active, ongoing care. Based on your quiz results, here are practical next steps:
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Schedule Weekly Check-Ins. Dedicate time to talk about what’s working and what needs support—without blame.
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Create Rituals of Connection. Daily coffee, walks, or date nights strengthen shared meaning.
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Seek Support When Needed. Therapy isn’t failure—it’s a growth strategy. Couples who seek help early recover faster and build deeper trust.
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Practice Active Listening. Reflect back what you hear before responding. This fosters empathy and emotional safety.
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Rediscover Fun Together. Shared joy rebuilds connection. Try new activities or revisit things that once made you laugh together.
FAQ's About The Signs of a Failing Marriage Quiz & Marriage Trouble Assessment
As a marriage therapist, here are the most common questions I receive from couples after taking our marriage quiz:
Q: What if my partner refuses to take the quiz?
A You can still gain valuable insights by taking it yourself. Your answers can help you understand your perspective of the relationship and identify areas where you might initiate positive change in your life .
Q: Our results show we're struggling - does this mean we're in trouble and divorce is inevitable?
A: Absolutely not. Low scores on the marriage quiz don't predict divorce - they highlight areas that need attention. Many marriages and couples I work with initially score poorly but successfully strengthen their relationship once they identify and address their specific challenges.
Q: How often should couples take relationship assessments?
A: I recommend taking the quiz every 3-6 months so you can track progress. A regular health check-up for your marriage is akin to preventative care, which helps maintain a strong relationship.
Q: What if we scored well in most areas but very poorly in one?
A: This is quite common and does not necessarily cause alarms. Every couple has their strengths and growth areas. Focus on maintaining the positive aspects of your relationship while developing specific strategies to improve the challenging area. Remember, no marriage is perfect in all dimensions.