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ENM & Open Relationship Therapy in West Hollywood
Consensual non-monogamy (CNM), ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, open relationships, and kink-aware dynamics are valid, healthy relationship structures—not problems to be fixed. At Oliver Drakeford Therapy, we offer affirming ENM and open relationship therapy in West Hollywood and across Los Angeles for individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships.
Whether you identify as LGBTQ+, queer, polyamorous, non-monogamous, or are exploring alternative relationship structures, therapy should be a place where your identity and relationship style are understood, respected, and supported. You won’t need to explain or justify how you love.
Our work together focuses on the real challenges ENM and open relationships can bring, including:
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Navigating boundaries, agreements, and consent
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Improving communication across multiple partners
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Addressing jealousy, insecurity, and attachment wounds
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Supporting relationship transitions, breakups, or re-negotiations
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Creating sustainable, emotionally safe relationship dynamics
Based in West Hollywood, a community where diverse relationship styles are visible and thriving, we provide judgment-free, sex-positive, kink-aware therapy that meets you exactly where you are. Your relationships don’t need to look traditional to be deeply fulfilling—they just need to work for you.
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What Is Open Relationship & ENM-Affirming Structural Therapy?
At its core, Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM)—often referred to as Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)—is an umbrella term for relationship structures in which all partners explicitly consent to having romantic and/or sexual connections with others. Rather than being a sign of confusion or avoidance, ENM relationships recognize that human needs for security, attachment, novelty, and autonomy can coexist.
ENM is not a single way of relating. We understand and affirm the nuances between different non-monogamous relationship styles, including:
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Open Relationships
Typically describes partners who are emotionally exclusive with one another while being sexually open to experiences with others.
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Polyamory
The practice of engaging in multiple loving, emotionally intimate relationships simultaneously, with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
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Polyamorous & ENM Dynamics
Whether you identify as monogamish, a swinger, a relationship anarchist, or somewhere else on the non-monogamy spectrum, we speak your language and respect your lived experience.
A Structural Approach to ENM Therapy | Open Relationship Therapy
Our work is grounded in Structural Family Therapy, thoughtfully adapted for modern, non-monogamous relationship systems. Rather than asking why you are non-monogamous, we focus on how your relationship structure functions.
Together, we explore:
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Boundaries and agreements
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Subsystems within your relationship or polycule
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Power, hierarchy, and role clarity
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How communication flows—or breaks down—between partners
The goal is not to change your relationship style, but to ensure that your structure is clear, flexible, and supportive for everyone involved.
This is a strictly non-judgmental, sex-positive, and LGBTQ+-affirming space. We are experienced in working with polycules, metamour relationships, and both hierarchical and non-hierarchical dynamics. Your relationship structure is not the problem to be fixed. Therapy is about strengthening the agreements, communication, and emotional safety that allow it to thrive.
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