<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Oliver Drakeford Therapy]]></title><description><![CDATA[A decade of experience providing therapy for couples and adults. An anxiety therapist with an LGBTQ+ affirming practice.]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 13 May 2026 13:26:19 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[How to Stop Overthinking at Night: What Your Brain Is Actually Doing at 3am]]></title><description><![CDATA[If you're searching for how to stop overthinking at night, there's a reasonable chance you're reading this at an hour you'd rather be asleep. It's what brings more people to my office than almost anything else. Why Does My brain start overthinking at night? Overthinking is rarely just a thinking problem - it's an uncertainty problem. One of the first things I help people understand when they come to my office is that anxiety, overthinking and rumination are often a response to uncertainty....]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/how-to-stop-overthinking-at-night</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69ffe88a4f7ebdc9f6ae6e80</guid><pubDate>Sun, 10 May 2026 03:05:35 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_2cb5b959f6ac4f0da00772733d9eccd8~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[8 Communication Blocks in Relationships (And the Antidote to Each)]]></title><description><![CDATA[Communication blocks in relationships  are the habits most couples never realize they've developed, quietly dismantling connection long before anyone thinks to call a therapist. What Are Communication Blocks in Relationships? Most couples who walk into my West Hollywood therapy room for couples therapy don't lack love. They lack the ability to give each other the experience of being truly understood. A communication block is anything that interrupts that experience. And most of them don't...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/communication-blocks-in-relationships</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69cf31472a4608ae001e4a35</guid><pubDate>Fri, 03 Apr 2026 03:53:34 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_c80279b641004aa2a1b004e0eff7c454~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_400,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Where to find LGBTQ+ friendly therapists in West Hollywood?]]></title><description><![CDATA[West Hollywood is home to one of the highest concentrations of LGBTQ+ affirming mental health providers in Los Angeles County. LGBTQ+ friendly therapy means working with a therapist who is trained in queer identity development, minority stress, and the relational, emotional, and cultural challenges facing LGBTQ+ individuals and couples. This approach goes beyond tolerance or neutrality—it actively affirms your identity, centers your lived experience, and removes the burden of having to...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/lgbtq-friendly-therapists-in-west-hollywood</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6955b792fbc9403dda7461e8</guid><pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2026 00:14:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_e98f4de4a0d94d0db7b66722582a1b56~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_628,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What Are Bids for Connection? The Small Moments That Make or Break Your Relationship]]></title><description><![CDATA[Think about the last time you did something really big for your partner. Maybe it was a surprise vacation, an anniversary dinner at their favorite restaurant, or flowers for no reason. Now think about an average Tuesday evening. You're doing the dishes after dinner. Did you look up when your partner walked into the room? Did you respond when they made a comment about the food? Did you put your phone down when they started talking? Here's what I've learned after a decade of working with...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/bids-for-connection</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6949c7c5adc391625af7f7c8</guid><pubDate>Mon, 22 Dec 2025 22:53:49 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="http://youtu.be/Y8U4tFC8e-k" length="0" type="video"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why do couples fight over the holidays?]]></title><description><![CDATA["Couples fight during the holidays not because they don't love each other—but because their shared capacity for stress has been exceeded."]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/why-do-couples-fight-over-the-holidays</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6946eb6706d68485a19e45ba</guid><pubDate>Sat, 20 Dec 2025 18:42:54 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="http://youtu.be/xkvG_OwJPZs" length="0" type="video"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Executive | BUSINESS Coaching for Entrepreneurs in West Hollywood: A Different Way to Think About It]]></title><description><![CDATA[When people search for business or executive coaching in West Hollywood, they’re rarely looking for motivation or productivity hacks. Most entrepreneurs and executives I meet are already disciplined, driven, and capable. They’ve read the books, hired consultants, and built something real.]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/executive-coaching-for-entrepreneurs</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6955e5247fd864ff7fe2d081</guid><pubDate>Thu, 18 Dec 2025 03:24:14 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_336b46e49ecf4cb6a7b19bf51df80681~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_720,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Are There Weekend Couples Therapy Appointments Available in Los Angeles? (Yes—Here’s How to Book)]]></title><description><![CDATA[The team at Oliver Drakeford Therapy offers couples therapy appointments over the weekend. In person couples therapy sessions in Los Angeles are available at 8702 Santa Monica Blvd, West Hollywood CA. Pricing starts at $135, and certain packages of session can be paid off over a series of months, making payments very affordable. Looking For Weekend Couples Therapy Los Angeles Appointments? Finding time for couples therapy when you both work full-time can feel impossible. One of you has...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/weekend-couples-therapy-los-angeles</link><guid isPermaLink="false">693b0ecb152a564cb0be0288</guid><pubDate>Thu, 11 Dec 2025 19:08:39 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_44eae90bceab4740a4238dcd764aefaf~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Is There a Good Anxiety Therapist in West Hollywood?]]></title><description><![CDATA[ What matters most is whether the therapist understands how anxiety actually operates, rather than treating it as a collection of symptoms to manage.]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/anxiety-therapist-in-west-hollywood</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6955dbf9fbc9403dda74a986</guid><pubDate>Mon, 01 Dec 2025 02:50:56 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_74b53cd25bef4d1b95c11ddeb5fb1142~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_400,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Oliver Drakeford Therapy Publishes Early Findings on Anxiety Therapy Los Angeles Patterns Through Online Quiz]]></title><description><![CDATA[Oliver Drakeford Therapy's Early Anxiety Analysis Reveals How Anxiety Operates as a System of Rules November 10, 2025  has released early data from The Ten Rules of Anxiety  Report. This report reveals behavioral patterns from hundreds of participants. It suggests that anxiety functions less as an emotion and more as a system of mental rules designed to maintain safety. However, these rules often reinforce distress. The findings position Oliver Drakeford Therapy as a recognized provider of...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/anxiety-therapy-los-angeles-press-release</link><guid isPermaLink="false">691235f0afb3ca6264f7d303</guid><pubDate>Mon, 10 Nov 2025 19:54:53 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_632cbd504c44489bb5a17d4ee15bd18a~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Process Group Therapy Techniques And Tools ]]></title><description><![CDATA[If you run or are thinking about running process group therapy, you already know it is less like a skills class and more like a living room where emotional work happens in real time. In this post I walk you through four practical facilitation techniques drawn from Modern Group Analysis that I use to help groups develop emotional connection, clearer self-other boundaries, and better use of words instead of actions. I explain what I do, why I do it, and exactly what I might say in the moment....]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/process-group-therapy-techniques-and-tools</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6906de30c8a1fe1c55fadd1f</guid><pubDate>Sun, 02 Nov 2025 05:13:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="http://youtu.be/gT9o86al5yA" length="0" type="video"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Best Relationship Check In Questions to Stop Resentment Before It Starts]]></title><description><![CDATA[If you want a simple, research-backed way to prevent small frustrations from turning into long-term resentment, start using relationship check in questions . After a decade of working with couples, I can say this with certainty: resentment is the silent relationship killer. It hides, multiplies, and eventually makes one or both partners feel disconnected. The antidote is structure — a 10–15 minute ritual built around relationship check in questions  that helps you both stay emotionally...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/relationship-check-in-questions</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68fc03ed48701ce72e27fa2d</guid><pubDate>Sat, 25 Oct 2025 01:01:14 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="http://youtu.be/GN8ywUQpSlA" length="0" type="video"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How to Address Conflict in a Relationship: A Five-Step SHARP Framework]]></title><description><![CDATA[We only get to solutions when the problem is the problem. 



That line is the backbone of a five-step framework I use with couples who are stuck in cycles of fighting and blame. I call it the SHARP framework — a practical way to figure out what you're actually fighting about so you can stop attacking each other and start solving the real issue.]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/how-to-address-conflict</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68f0275c67805a6f93e76343</guid><pubDate>Wed, 15 Oct 2025 23:11:43 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_6e8b22f49e2f45e0ad1689bec1e35fb1~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_720,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford, LMFT CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why You Self Sabotage Relationships - Understanding The Sabotage of Serenity Rule]]></title><description><![CDATA[Welcome to what I call the Sabotage of Serenity Statute: one of anxiety's cruelest rules that makes you come in like a wrecking ball. It's one of the 10 rules of relationship anxiety that I teach people, because once you know the rules that you're following, you can start to break them.]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/self-sabotage-relationships</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68e73c6215335a80a8290f62</guid><pubDate>Thu, 09 Oct 2025 04:47:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_c62e9d2e35534028a08d7b1036d702ee~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford, LMFT CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Oliver Drakeford Therapy Releases ‘Roommate Phase’ Relationship Report: Disconnection in Couples Therapy Los Angeles]]></title><description><![CDATA[Oliver Drakeford Therapy in Los Angeles released The Roommate Report, revealing relationship patterns in the 74.6% of couples that feel...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/roommate-phase-press</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68deff3b3d4aa73574f00d62</guid><pubDate>Thu, 02 Oct 2025 22:48:25 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_b12d895689c3482780ab18e499566121~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_889,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[couples communication skills: Listening to learn ]]></title><description><![CDATA[We need to talk couples communication skills - an in particular - listening. I talk about two completely different types of...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/couples-communication-skills-active-listening</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68d3537ba14cb1a1a09f22e0</guid><pubDate>Wed, 24 Sep 2025 02:37:32 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_5db52c561b5a4ed0821be8211a2ef868~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[New Research And Statistics: The #1 Communication SkilLS That Predicts Relationship Success]]></title><description><![CDATA[The data from 1,300 couple assessments reveals that having good listening skills is correlated with overall relationship success. This...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/communication-skills-for-relationship-success</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68d211c0366e4cf0031aa8c8</guid><pubDate>Tue, 23 Sep 2025 04:22:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_e22ba81e701c4ef69698a01c949e21c5~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_889,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Key Statistics: Communication Issues in Relationships and Help For Couples In Los Angeles ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Communication issues in relationships are behavioral patterns where partners fail to effectively exchange thoughts, feelings, and needs, affecting 75% of couples with average communication scores of just 39.5%. The results from The C.A.R.E &#38; Intimacy Quiz which 1299 participants have responded to reviews four pillars of relationships success: communication, affection, resolution of conflict and equilibrium. ]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/statistics-communication-issues-in-relationships</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68d08318a13a7e012242dc68</guid><pubDate>Sun, 21 Sep 2025 23:52:59 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_3c8cf6ecf800465793ec23cbaf4f354e~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford, LMFT CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[2025 Couples INTIMACY STATISTICS AND Report]]></title><description><![CDATA[Analysis of 1,299 couples shows that 75% experience significant communication challenges, with average communication scores of just 39.5%...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/2025-couples-intimacy-statistics</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68d069b20786a9f747a9efe7</guid><pubDate>Sun, 21 Sep 2025 22:27:16 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Anxiety Therapy West Hollywood: Expert Treatment on Santa Monica Blvd]]></title><description><![CDATA[Welcome! I'm Oliver Drakeford, an anxiety specialist and licensed psychotherapist providing premier anxiety therapy in West Hollywood. ...]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/anxiety-therapy-west-hollywood</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68b664d8fcffb11462e390dd</guid><pubDate>Tue, 02 Sep 2025 03:40:11 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_83710f202ba44bcbad58f57d891da6ca~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_400,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford LMFT, CGP</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Master Family Systems Therapy Training: From Chaos to Breakthrough]]></title><description><![CDATA[amily Systems Therapy Training provides concrete tools for real family sessions, moving beyond theory to help therapists confidently handle complex family dynamics.]]></description><link>https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/post/family-systems-therapy-training</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68b65b79e25f02068eea8afc</guid><pubDate>Tue, 02 Sep 2025 03:08:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/aa632c_89db701a621348309b380a6838e3c12d~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Oliver Drakeford, LMFT CGP</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>